How to Discipline an “Angry” Child

I was asked just recently what to do about a child who has begun to act out aggressively when he experiences frustration. Here are my thoughts: First - a child needs to be taught, and reminded, that feeling angry is OK. Anger is an emotion and should not be judged as...

When Anxiety Feels Like It’s Winning

Recently, a client mentioned, "I often find myself fidgeting and engaging in compulsive behaviours like nail-biting when I feel anxious. I'd like to be able to calm myself and keep myself from getting caught up in these habits. What should I do?" After some discussion...

Goodbye Fear: The Breakup Song

Goodbye Fear: The Breakup Song

I cannot get enough of Francesca Battistelli's new song, "The Breakup Song". I love that part of the chorus that says, "I ain't got time for you telling me what I'm not, like you know me... well guess what? I know who I am. I know I'm strong, and I am free - got my...

Step Four: Develop Your Assertiveness Skills

As we have learned in the previous chapters, we all express our anger in some way, either inwardly or outwardly.  The most common types of behavioural and verbal expression fall into three categories: aggressive, passive or assertive.  Of course, there are those we...

Stress Management: Attitude is Where It Begins

Attitude is Where It All BeginsWhen you think about stress management, what do you think of? Do you picture hammocks, white sandy beaches, and azure blue oceans? Do you think of soothing music, candles, and a hot bath in a claw-foot tub overflowing with bubbles? Or...

Anger Solutions for Kids: FLUSH IT!!!

In honour of our first Anger Solutions for Kids group starting this April at my counselling office in Thorold, I thought it might be fun to share one of the exercises we have a blast with in our group. This exercise is part of the process of RELEASING RESIDUAL ANGER,...

Anger Solutions: Belief is the Basis of Action

Some years ago, I was talking with a client about his particular limiting beliefs. I remember sharing with him the notion that belief is the basis of action, and watching as revelation dawned in his facial expression. He wrote it down in his notebook in large, bold...

Anger Solutions: Pleasure vs. Pain

People are always asking, "What makes Anger Solutions so much more effective than traditional anger management?" This is no simple question - as there are many facets of Anger Solutions that come together to make it an exceptional program. Today I want to share with...

What is the Anger Solutions Program?

The Anger Solutions™ Program was developed out of an expressed need for a comprehensive anger management program that would serve the needs of individuals dealing with a mental illness. Due to contributing factors such as the side effects of medications, varying...

Advice for Bullied Children

Bullying takes shape in a variety of forms: it can be physical (aggression or intimidation), social (relational, social isolation) or verbal (name calling, ridicule, belittling, shaming). Bullying behaviours can be identified in children as young as four years old and...

Anger Solutions: Myth Busters

Do you ever wonder what anger really is and how one can resolve it? Are you tired of hearing the term "anger management" applied to EVERYTHING: "She has anger management issues""He needs anger management""Hockey coach shows his lack of anger management"? Wouldn't you...

Getting Past the Past: Free Yourself

"And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free..." We are all aware of the truths about our pasts as well as our present. It is human nature to avoid the truth, since the truth is usually not what what we want people to see. The first step to...

Anger Solutions now available in EBOOK format

Happy New Year! I am very excited to announce that my most popular book, Anger Solutions: Proven Strategies for Effectively Resolving Anger and Taking Control of Your Emotions, is now available in EBook format. Thanks to the amazing folks at Smashwords Publishing...